Shower fight with Trin.

Last night trin was having such a hard time.  She has a lot of emotions and confusion bottled up and coming to a head.  We have been working on finding a release for it so any suggestions would be appreciated.  So last night she was just going off and I was just getting so mad and frustrated.  It was very hard on me to see her this way when she is not usually like this.  So we were arguing about different things and one of the was about her not getting in the tub,  She would keep telling me I will tomorrow mom, and on and on.  Never did happen so last night I stripped her down and put her in the shower.  She cried and tried holding on to the door so I couldn't put her in. (She is very strong and can hold on tight by the way I struggled with it)  I finally got her and and she screamed at the top of her lungs and cried, because she doesn't like water on her face unless she does it her self.. Me poor dad hollered down thinking something I don't know what I just hollered back that every thing was fine.  I hurried and got her clean and out in like 3 mins.  To her it seemed like longer and to me.  She kept spitting water and spit at me and flipping water at me.. It was very dramatic.  Then after that I wrapped her in a towel and we sat on my bed and talked and both of us cried for a long time.  It was  a release but I wish we both could have done it different.  We hugged and said our sorries.  IT was a hard night.  I just need some peace and so does My sweet little Trintrin.  I love my baby girl to death but sometimes we just butt heads.  On a happier note today since her release she has been doing sooooo good.  Children we love them!